Make Self-Care And Calm A Natural Part of Your Home Environment
I recently read an article on the state of caregiving. The article stated that a large percentage of caregivers live with their caree. While there are definitely benefits to living with a caree, the negatives can sometimes outweigh the positives.
If you are a caregiver living with your caree, you don’t get a break from your role of caregiver. You can’t escape and be “off” for a few hours. It can be hard to find your own space to decompress, particularly if you are sharing a small space or you are caring for your spouse.
That doesn’t mean you can’t find ways to de-stress at home, it just means you have to get a bit more creative.
Ways To Make Your Home Environment Relaxing
Create A Soothing Space:
I live in a small two bedroom condo with a husband, two kids and a dog. We are pretty space challenged and there is a lot of “stuff.” I can’t stand clutter. It makes me anxious. Sadly, I’m the only person in my family who feels this way so the majority of my house is clutter-full.
I’ve started creating my own clutter-free zones so that I have a place to escape and just breathe. In my bedroom, I’ve cleared all of the clutter off my dresser and night stand so that I can have clear, clean spaces to look at when I’m in bed. No one is allowed to put things on my two spaces. I’m also planning to get a nice chaise lounge to have comfortable seating. In addition, I’m working to make my balcony a serene, relaxing area where my family can relax. I haven’t completed either project, but just knowing that is going to happen makes me less stressed out about all of the rest of the clutter.
Is there a small space in your home that you can make your space? Can you move a comfy chair and table near a window to have your own cozy zone?
Create A Relaxing Ritual:
Before I had kids, I used to take a bubble bath at the end of a stressful day. I’m not really sure why I’ve stopped, since I have far more stress in my life now. I’m going to have to figure out a way to squeeze this back in to my life!
If you can’t commit to a bubble bath, or that isn’t something you find enjoyable, what ritual can you start that is just for you? Perhaps you can sit for 20 minutes with a journal and a cup of tea or pick up an adult coloring book and curl up on the couch with a glass of wine and your colored pencils.
De-Clutter Your Space:
I would be remiss if I didn’t include de-cluttering as a way to make your home more relaxing. Having less stuff around helps us relax and the less stuff we have, the less stuff we have to take care of. That being said, I know how hard it can be to carve out time to declutter.
I wish I could spend a weekend getting rid of all of the extra stuff and finding homes for things that don’t have a place. Unfortunately, with my health, it is physically difficult to do this all at once. I practice the three minute clean up regularly. I am a big fan of slow and steady wins the race, so I completely support your need to move at your own pace.
You’ll be happy you cleared your space once you do, but you don’t need to break your back doing it. This is why I try to create small areas that become my little haven.
Create Small Moments:
If the idea of setting aside large chunks of time or setting up a separate space are too overwhelming at the moment, there are still small things you can do to make your home your haven.
Sometimes, when we’re busy or stressed, we forget all of those little things that make us feel better. Take out a notebook or piece of paper and make a list of things that make you feel better so that you don’t have to think when you are stressed. Here are some ideas:
- Light a scented candle in a relaxing fragrance. Pick scents such as Sandalwood, Sage, Lavender or Chamomile.
- Do a crossword puzzle, word search or jigsaw puzzle
- Pain your fingernails or toenails
- Listen to your favorite music, or relaxing music. I have recently discovered the Spa station on Pandora.com and am hooked.
- Download a meditation app, or practice meditation on your own (I need an app to really unplug)