How To Keep Going When You Don’t Have Caregiving Motivation
There are times when everyone has a lack of motivation and slacks off for a while. The challenge for caregivers is that since caregiving is constant, lasts a long time and is somewhat self-driven, a drop in motivation can cause some serious issues. At best, there are messes and piles of laundry to deal with; at worst, slacking on caregiving duties can impact your loved one’s health.
If you are struggling with motivation, it can be hard to get back in the swing of things. Before you get down on yourself over your lack of motivation, step back and consider where the lack of motivation comes from.
If you have one of the bigger issues above, you will need to address it in order to move forward. It is incredibly hard to keep pushing through when you are dealing with an issue like depression or burn out.
Tips To Regain Caregiver Motivation
If you struggle with getting motivated to do caregiving tasks, here are some ways you can get your caregiving mojo back.
- Get organized: Keeping a to do list or creating a schedule can help you power through caregiving. Sometimes, just having to figure out what to do next can be overwhelming so having your to dos written out takes the pressure off of you.
- Get help: If you haven’t asked for caregiving help before, now is the time to build your caregiving network. Whether you enlist your siblings, other relatives, friends or hire a paid caregiver a few hours a week, bringing in support can help you get your caregiving motivation back.
- Shake things up: You may be lacking motivation because sometimes, caregiving can feel monotonous. If you are struggling with motivation because you’re feeling like you’re stuck in a rut, make some changes to your routine. Perhaps you and your caree go to the library once a week to take a free class or read magazines. Maybe instead of making lunch every day, you go to the senior center for lunch or have lunch with a friend or neighbor once a week. Find ways to change up the caregiving routine so that it doesn’t feel so monotonous.
- Focus on the positive: If you are struggling with motivation, focus on the positive aspects of caregiving. Reframe your perspective. For example, instead of thinking, “I have to do …” think, “I get to do this for my loved one. This is a gift.”
- Practice self-care: If you have been reading my blog, you probably knew self-care would make the list. When we feel better, we are able to take on more. Self-care can help improve your motivation because you won’t feel like all you ever do is give to others. I know it can be hard to squeeze in self-care, but there are so many low cost or free things you can do from home that anyone can squeeze it in. Just the other night, I was fried after a long day but before bed, I visited YouTube.com, typed gentle yoga in the search box and picked a 20 minute bedtime yoga routine. It was free. It was easy. I felt a million times better afterwards. Don’t skip out on self-care because you’re tired or busy.
- Take a step back: Sometimes, when we’re really busy, we focus on the tasks and not the people. If you are losing caregiving motivation, it may be helpful to take a step back and remember why you are doing it. Spend some non-caregiver time with your loved one. If it is in your budget, consider bring someone in to handle some of the household or caregiving tasks that you don’t enjoy – even if it is just for a few weeks until you get your caregiver mojo back.
Everyone loses their motivation now and then. The challenge with caregiving is that if you lose your motivation, important tasks may fall through the cracks. While it can be hard to pull yourself out and get back at it, remember that caregiving won’t last forever. One day, you will look back at this time and be thankful that you had this time with your loved one.
If you haven’t yet, check out my Zazzle store to purchase caregiver affirmations. You can put them on your nightstand, in your handbag or on your refrigerator so that you can refer to them when you need a quick pick-me-up.
How do you get back your mojo?