Valentine’s Day is coming up and whether you celebrate or not, it is a great time to do a little something sweet for your parent – particularly if he/she is widowed. Many of my widowed customers have gotten used to their new status as time passes, but there is always a wistfulness in their voice when they talk about days like Valentine’s Day or their anniversary.
Perhaps their spouse always bought them flowers or took them to a fancy dinner. Maybe they cooked for them or they went to a movie together. Whatever they did, once their spouse is gone, sadly, all that they have left is the memory. Their families will continue to observe traditional holidays like Christmas, Easter, Hanukkah or Passover, but the little moments that celebrate a couple tend to get forgotten.
Obviously, you can’t fill the void of their spouse, but just a little acknowledgement goes a long way. One year on Mother’s Day, I bought flowers for my customers who didn’t have children. You would have thought I gave them a million dollars. They were so appreciative that someone thought of them. One woman cried because her husband used to always bring her flowers on Mother’s Day even though they never had children because he wanted to show her how special she was to him.
You don’t have to spend a lot of money or spend the whole day together. As a caregiver, you are already juggling so much. But something small like a card, or bringing them dessert, or if you have more time, taking them to lunch can really make their day and help strengthen your relationship. Small gestures go so far.